Mommas Missing Babies

I’ve been missing Eleanor a lot lately. I think it comes with the Christmas season. Families send out their Christmas cards this time of year. In our card there will always be that void. It’s hard to explain to someone that we have 3 kids when they only see 2. I also don’t like the pity that I see in their eyes. It’s just a hard situation all around. No one knows how to act. I understand how the other people feel. I sometimes still don’t know how to react when someone comes to me and says they have lost their child. It’s such a delicate situation. Every child is precious no matter the age they are lost. They will always hold a deep space in their family’s heart especially their mommas. So this Christmas if you know a momma or a family who has lost a baby no matter the age, let them know that you are there for them. If they are wanting to talk about their child they lost: let them. Sit there and listen. If their precious child has a name that has been shared: use that name. I love it when people ask me to tell them about my family so I can tell them about Eleanor. Instead of saying to someone “O I see you have 2 kids,” ask them to tell you about their family so it frees them up to tell you about a loss if they want too. But mostly just be kind. People deal with grief very differently, and it can come out at later times.

God, I pray for all the mommas who have lost a child no matter the age. You have made mommas with a special place in their hearts for their babies. Please fill the void that we feel when we miss our babies. Hold us close to you. Thank you for the grace you give us when we still feel anger towards you. Help us to be vulnerable enough to fall into the arms of a Father who knows what it is like to lose a child. Thank you for your goodness even through the storms. Amen